Tiga2 Bersalin

Salam

Kelmarin saya telah mendapat perkhabaran gembira: rakan saya Bisha Fathamah telah selamat melahirkan seorang baby boy...mendengar suaranya di telefon tengahari ini saya turut tumpang gembira. Alhamdulillah baby dan si ibu sihat2 sahaja.

Semenjak pendengar-pendengar setia saya bersalin, agak kurang saya dan mereka dapat berchat di ym .Kadang2 adalah. Apapun itulah yg didoakan bersama2 selama ini..semoga mereka semua dlm keadaan tenang..dan semoga diri saya juga begitu.

Tiga rakan saya yg dimaksudkan ialah Maz, Shila dan Bisha.

Maz

Maz (atau nama sebenarnya Mazlynda hehe) merupakan rakan USIM yang merupakan tutor seperti saya, cuma lain fakulti. Beliau mengajar di Fakulti Sains dan Teknologi sementara saya tutor di Fakulti Syariah dan Undang-undang. Yg membuatkan kami kenal dan lebih rapat adalah kerana kami ni housemates masa mengajar di USIM. Kami menyewa sama di rumah Kak Muna yg terletak di Desa Kasia, Nilai..Jarak rumah kami dgn pejabat cuma 5 minit sahaja. Tambahan pula Maz akan balik hujung minggu ke PJ, jadi saya ada juga menumpang Maz sebab nak balik ke rumah TTDI. Kami melanjutkan pelajaran sama2 di bulan Sept 2006 dlm peringkat Masters. Cuma saya di Durham sementara Maz (serta Yumn, seorg lagi housemate kami) di Kent University. Banyak kenangan manis dan pahit dikongsi bersama sewaktu di zaman bujang ni. Kami juga kahwin dlm tahun yg sama, iaitu setelah tamat pengajian Masters. Maz berkahwin Feb 08 sementara saya pula Ogos 08. Amat seronok melihat rakan saya ni naik pelamin. Cuma Maz tak dapat hadir ke majlis kahwin saya sebab dah ke UK seawal Jun untuk menemani suami memulakan Phd. Apapun Maz mula Phd nya juga sama spt saya iaitu Sept/Oct 2008...selamat berjaya Maz dlm bidang actuarial science di Southampton University, UK..semoga kita sama2 berjuang sekali lagi kali ini...trm kasih selalu ingt2kan lin dgn nasihat2 yg power heeheh..ketika sy sedang sedih dlm kapal terbang dr Malaysia Maz pula telah selamat melahirkan seorang puteri di Southampton...

Shila

Seorang lagi rakan serumah kami namanya Shila. Nama sebenar dia unik, Jaziratul Shila. Asal Pekan, Pahang beliau sebaya saya. Sementara Maz dan Yumn pula setahun muda dari kami. Shila ni lasak tapi bila dh lama2 kenal rupanya lemah-lembut je orgnya:) ...sungguh keibuan. Shila sekarang di Amman, Jordan dan akan tamat Masters dlm pengajian Islam sebelum Aidilfitri ini. Dia ni terror sgt bawa motor,...kami penah p beli kain baju kurung dekat area Nilai sama2. Siap g McD lagi lepas tu...heheh...I miss those days Shila..Shila berkahwin semasa saya dan Maz sedang menyiapkan masters di uk iaitu 2007. Apapun kami selalu keep in touch di ym. Selain Maz, beliau adalah 'kaunselor' saya dlm banyak perkara2 peribadi..hehe..Shila tutor USIM di Fakulti Kepimpinan dan Pengurusan...pernah satu ketika keluarga Shila datang melawat Nilai..walaupun telah kehilangan ayahanda, keluarga mereka sangat fun, happy-go-lucky dan kelihatan sungguh tabah melalui hari2 tanpa seorg ketua keluarga. Ibulah ayah dan ibu Shila dan 2 lagi adik perempuannya...semoga pengajian Shila tamat dengan mumtaazah insya-Allah..lin sentiasa doakan agar Shila tabah spt selalu...Shila telah selamat bersalin 2minggu selepas Maz dan alhamdulilllah juga mendapat seorang puteri di Amman...

Bisha

Bisha Fathamah bukan rakan serumah tapi rakan sekatil semasa berkursus di Biro Tatanegara..ops bukan sekatil tapi dia katil bawah sementara saya di katil atas..double-decker belaka katil di BTN Ulu Sepri, Negeri Sembilan ni..kami kenal May 2008..sekarang Bisha dekaaatt je dgn saya sebab dia buat Phd researchnya tentang cancer di Newcastle University. Walaupun kenal sekejap tapi banyak yg dikongsi bersama cik kak seorg ni..kalau g beli ayam/daging halal kat Newcastle sempat singgah sebentar kat rumah Bisha yg juga terletak di Fenham ni...dekat benar dgn kedai halal tu..yg paling rasa terhutang budi tu bila Bisha dan suami sanggup menghantar adik dan adik ipar saya ke Newcastle Airport sesudah subuh tuu..masa tu adik dtg ziarah saya di Durham...kami menumpang satu malam di rumahnya dan macam2 dia masakkan huhuhu..lunch, dinner dan breakfast dlm masa 12 jam menumpang!! 2 minggu lepas Bisha pula dtg ke Durham bersama2 suami serta ibunya..ketika tu blom bersalin lagi...jumpe dia di rumah ustazah hamidah...sempat berborak2 sekejap...hehe...pernah juga Bisha offer nak belikan barang2 groceries untuk saya,...tp xpe la Bisha pasal skrg ni Durham dah ada kedai halal ehehheh...sebab tu lin dh jarang ke sana..anyway thanks for the offer ya Bisha n hubby...may Allah bless you both...2 hari lepas Bisha telah selamat melahirkan seorang putera di Newcastle.....

APAPUN........................

TAHNIAH

Maz & Yazis, atas kelahiran puteri sulung Mysha Yariqa pada 23 April 2009 di Southampton, UK

Shila & Abdullah, atas kelahiran puteri sulung Nuha Arissa pada 7 Mei 2009 di Amman, Jordan, dan

Bisha & Zuraidi, atas kelahiran putera sulung Naufal Aidi pada 23 Julai 2009 di Newcstle, UK.


Semoga Allah mempermudahkan jua perjuangan Maz, Shila dan Bisha dlm pelajaran masing2 dalam kehidupan berkeluarga..lin sentiasa doakan tiga2 rakan lin yg telah banyak memberi nasihat dan pandangan2 peribadi (via online tuu)pada lin dalam masa kesusahan lin sebelum ni...keep in touch.. I miss you three !

:)

A.A.T

Alone and Away (but not lonely)

Hi,

Alhamdulillah for all the rizqi and barakah Allah has given upon all of us.

Winter Sonata

Since last November, I have been working on my literature review for my Phd thesis. I have been very busy throughout the winter season 2008. My time has been predominantly occupied by writing activities. I have been writing a lot. I put aside all the perasaan rindu, sedih and sunyi. Focus, and stay focus, that's what I have been telling myself. Jangan malas, usaha pasti membuahkan hasil biidznillah. Dengan izin Allah, pasti akan berjaya, tapi kalau putus asa atau putus usaha, tak akan dapat apa2.

Anyway, Professor Thomas Allen, my supervisor has been very supportive; he has been giving positive feedback on my research and suggesting some useful materials for the literature review process. ..and since then I have been struggling a lot too. Managing my thesis, constructing the research framework, excetera excetera.Alhmdulillah so far so good. Thanks to my loved ones for the du'a...

Still, I tend to be sad and emotional at times. I miss my husband, my family, and I miss being in Malaysia.

When hubby left for Malaysia after my registration in Durham, I was devastated for a while. The first week without him was excruciatingly painful. Living alone in a 3-bedroom house, I just had to keep myself busy by attending endless research training courses, short seminars and working in the library almost every day. I go to the library kadang-kadang hanya nak siapkan task yg amat mudah, yg kiranya kalau buat kat rumah pon bolehlah. Contohnya nak type satu paragraph pun pegi library haahhaa..tapi sebenarnya amat rindukan insan yg teristimewa itu. Wherever I go, whatever I do I always think of him. Sedih sangat. Bila la nk jumpa lg..rindunya nak balik Malaysia. So pegi library tu ada tujuan serampang dua mata: Satu sebab nk concentrate buat kerja, dan satu lagi sebab nak kurangkan rasa rindu pd org tuuu. Hahaha.

But I am lucky; Shila, Maz and Bisha have been lending their ears a lot. We always chat through YM. Syukur kepada Allah sebab mengurniakan rakan2 sejati, ikhlas dan memahami situasi diri ini..they regularly ask me how am I doing, how has it been with my research , how am I coping with life etc. We share a lot with each other. Maz di Southampton, Shila di Jordan and Bisha pulak di Newcastle. Luckily I have them. Thanks to the three of you!!

FACT: Studying abroad and being away from loved ones is not easy.

Masters

I first realized this a couple of years back when I came for LLM. LLM is course-work based, hence having to attend classes 5-6 hours a week and to participate in seminars once a fortnight has kept me and classmates busy throughout the term. Being single and living in university accommodation with 5 housemates to a dorm, we regularly attend events organized by the graduate community room of the college. Seronok juga aktiviti Ustinov College; "macam2 ada". Greek dance la (tapi takla ikut menari, sekadar ambil gmbar dan beramah-mesra sebelum upacara 'minum-minum alkohol' .Bila alcohol beverages dituang apalagi terus naik dorm, tak nak join le), cultural day, Ramadhan celebration, etc. Mcam2 acara ada dekat Ustinov College..macam cogankata Astro pulak. hahaha..macam-macammmmada..keh keh..
I realize that being away from family was not easy but thanks to the considerable amount of human interaction and colorful events around the school and college, I was able to 'function' mentally and emotionally as student and person. A balanced lifestyle is the essence of success, insya-Allah. Alhamdulillah I passed the LLM and I went back to USIM to teach for a year. Teaching and nurturing has been a wonderful experience. Syukur kepada Allah.

Phd

After teaching Tamhidi (this is USIM term for matriculation program) for law students for a year, I came back. I am back in Durham! This time I enrolled into Phd program. I rent a private home in Bowburn so that it will be convenient when family/friends come for a visit/vacation; hubby plans to come and visit me once every 6 months; sisters will come every three months. So that’s the purpose of renting a relatively huge space for one person: me. Staying in college can be fun but restricted space-wise and privacy-wise. Dan klau family dtg susah sebab ruang kecik. Sewa lebih kurang je dgan rumah, cuma rumah lg besar spacenya, jd sewa rumah lebih berbaloi dr sewa bilik kat College.

I am happy with this new home. If only hubby is here….ooh hush hush my wishful thinking…
I enjoy researching; but the research-based nature of Phd worsens my internal self; writing law has a lot to do with reading and analysing facts, legal provision and case law. Well, the list goes on…the point though is that research throughout term without classes at all does limit social activities. I put effort to attend social meetings and to schedule meeting with friends even to sit down for a cup of coffee. Friends are all on the same boat and they understand my situation, and I understand theirs. The least we could do for others is to listen and lend ears...and I got that. I have best listeners all around me. I have Shila, Maz and Bisha. Dayana and Tamadoor, my Durham uni friends have been very understanding. Thank you for your kindness and may Allah reward you.'Thank you'' wish is hardly an adequate compensation to your kindness and willingness to spend time chatting with me. I move on with life because of your word of wisdom and you listening to my heart, and we must thank Allah for giving us the chance to meet and befriend in this temporary world.

So, I may be alone, and away from loved ones, but insya-Allah with the motivation I have, the friends around me and the daily du'a that I make, I am not lonely....(tapi mesti make a point to meet people, have a balanced lifestyle, and do good deed to others). Hush hush loneliness!!

:)

A.A.T